January 17, 2014

Slingshot

Marc Hogan was bet £1 that he couldn’t become a stand up comic in less than 12 months and perform a one man comedy show at the Edinburgh Comedy Festival for 21 nights. He won the bet!

Today has been a good day. After 3 weeks of being bound up in a sling since dislocating my shoulder (see previous blog) the good people at East Surrey Hospital have said I don’t need to wear it any more. I’m a very happy man.

Of course I’m not allowed to lift any heavy weights but usually the heaviest lifting I have to do on stage is my remote clicker so I think I’ll be ok.

It’s been an interesting few weeks. The day before I fell over I had been moaning about life and how hard it was to run your own business etc. etc. But falling over actually knocked some sense into me.

I remembered how incredibly lucky and privileged I am to do my job.

Probably like many of you I have attended a lot of courses over the years: Myers Briggs, Influence at work, Insights, NLP, Hypnosis, CBT, countless sales trainings, Comedy Workshops, Six Thinking Hats. I even attended one on Energy (what can I say my aura was feeling low). The list goes on and on. The one thing they’ve all taught me is that how we feel is determined by what goes on in our head. Of course it’s very easy to forget that when we leave the workshop, I call it chair amnesia.

In the three weeks I couldn’t do very much. I read a lot and revisited some of those techniques and strategies on my ipad. I tried to convince Kirsty that my ipad was too heavy and that due to my injury I needed the new lighter ipad mini, but that didn’t wash.

Now if I can suffer from chair amnesia and I teach thinking skills, I wonder how many other people go on course, attend a seminar, listen to a work keynote, and leave with the best of intentions but when the pressure is on find they forget everything and instead return to a default way of thinking.

One of the things I’m particularly guilty of is demand thinking. Many times my Editor says, “I must do this / I should do this / I ought to do this / I must not make a mistake”. The problem with this type of thinking is that increases the pressure to be perfect, which can lead to frustration, anger and disappointment. Even worse, it can lead to rebellion, to doing the opposite of what you ‘should’ do in the first place.

So the next time your Editor says you must do something, perhaps you could decide to change it to, “I would like to do this,” or “I would have preferred not to make a mistake”.

Remember you can edit your Editor. And you don’t need a dislocated shoulder to remind you of that fact.

Click here to watch Marc’s showreel. If you would like to find out more about Marc, visit www.marchoganlive.com or to book him for a speaking event please contact your favourite speaker bureau.

 

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